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The Cracked Pot


An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which she carried across her neck.


One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.


At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.


For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.


Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.


But the cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.


After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.


“I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.”


The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?


That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.”


“For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.”


Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”


Each of us has our own unique flaw…


But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.


You just have to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them




A Personal Inventory


a) Identify 5 characteristics / strengths / gifts you believe you have.








b) Determine the positive outcomes in your life because of your key strengths? (What evidence do you have that confirms your gifts?)


Eg. Gift 1 = Sense of humour = bring fun to everything you do

       Gift 2 = Genuinely Care = lots of good friends








c) Consider 2 flaws you believe you possess and reflect how they have actually been some of your greatest assets.


Eg. Flaw 1 = sensitive to the words and actions of others = a real ability to be empathetic and appreciate where others are coming from


Flaw 2 = naďve = a willingness to take risks, try different things and have the flexibility to change to gain the result needed








d) Describe how viewing your imperfections as gifts, changes your perspective on you, your abilities and the difference you make to others.





It is interesting how the world seems to revolve around the negative.


Bad news sells, people are intrigued by the misfortunes of others, gossiping is an integral part of human nature and bringing down “tall poppies” is a national sport.


Is it any wonder then that while you are so conditioned to seeing the negative in all around you that it becomes second nature to dwell on your own shortcomings?


What if you decide enough is enough? From now on you will focus only on the positives and if something seems to be negative you will turn it around, over and upside down until you find the good in it.


Nothing comes into your life that you cannot handle…. each new challenge is an opportunity to stretch yourself outside of your comfort zone and be even more creative with the solutions available to you.


Once you make a commitment to yourself and take responsibility for recognising and celebrating the good in you, you will discover it becomes easy to recognise and affirm the good in others.


Have fun catching others being positive!


Keep shining


Christine Anderson